Getting Candid- Selfies and Sex-Blogging

I abhor having my photo taken. There is nothing like somebody getting out their camera and pointing it in my general direction to make my stomach clench and my skin break out in a nervous sweat. So how is it then that I’ve become comfortable with publishing quite revealing candid snaps of myself on Jupiter’s Lair?

First and foremost is the fact that I have complete editorial control over my images. I can cut, crop and tinker with photos until they meet my approval and, for those pictures that look absolutely horrendous, bin bin bin! No one but me will ever have set eyes on them. (Except for the one or two that have been captured by another party, but even with those, they’re on my mobile phone so I still have power over the delete button.)

Secondly, my face is never shown and nor are my various tattoos or scars. As such, I feel a sense of security that nobody I know is going to recognise me, other than those who already know my secret identity and whom I have trusted to keep schtum!

Thirdly, whereas the voices inside my head have always told me how fucking disgusting my body is, people who have seen my candid images on the blog have always been super supportive and complimentary. That’s a huge confidence booster, and now when my brain tells me how overweight, saggy, and unattractive I am, another part of me can counter with “well, some people out there actually think I look sexy, thanks very much!”

And fourthly, and lastly, but very importantly, it turns me on. It’s quite exciting, liberating, and arousing to dress up, or strip down, and strike a sexy pose. Whilst I completely understand that not everyone wants to post selfies and candid snaps, I heartily recommend taking a few simply for yourself and /or partner. You may, like me, be pleasantly surprised to discover that your bum isn’t as wide as you’ve always feared, and that actually your body, like every body, is beautiful. πŸ’–

Here are some of my favourite selfies/ candids from the website, along with one brand new one involving one of my favourite scarves…

Click the thumbnail and visit F4TFriday for more food for thought!

37 thoughts on “Getting Candid- Selfies and Sex-Blogging

  1. OMG your boobs in all these shots are just delightful (I like boobs, so apologies to all the other gorgeous body parts I’ve missed out), the scarf shot and the black and white image of your tumbling down and your lips on show are my favourites though πŸ™‚ x

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  2. Such beautiful shots – you got to give it to selfies they are good for your self esteem and I am with u on the self editing and bin if u take on u hate. We are in control of our selfies – I think that is why they are popular x

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  3. Yes, yes I agree with all of this especially the bit about being in control of the images. I hate other people taking my picture but self portraits are completely different

    Mollyx

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  4. Sharing images of you that you control is powerful and hugely exciting; that buzz of exhibitionism is a wonderful feedback loop, whereby the act of sharing, *and knowing you’re going to share when you take them*, makes it even sexier, which makes you feel sexier in the pics. And so on.

    You look simply gorgeous; of course everyone edits pics to look the best. But there’s a real beauty that shines through of you, regardless of edits and angles.

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